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Wherever You Go, You Bring Yourself; Change Self, Not Environment

When Heejin and I were in a high-end coaching program, we were analyzing business issues that resurfaced often in our careers.

One of the coaches told us that “it was the universe bringing us the same problems over and over until we learned what we needed to learn.” And Heejin glared at him like he had just stepped out of an insane asylum (watching that glare alone was worth the cost of coaching).

The other coach said that it was our habits of beliefs, perceptions, assumptions and reactions that caused our problems to resurface. The key, he said, is to be aware of this and to watch ourselves. He suggested that we actively change our habits and our way of thinking through meditation, awareness, reading, etc. We did, and it worked.

Both coaches also pointed out that changing our environments would never change our circumstances unless we changed ourselves.

I point this out b/c I see people all too often who want to change their environments, hoping to change their circumstances, when they really need to change themselves.

Jay Voorhees
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